Will Marriage Cure My Lust? // Ask Pastor John


Sex in marriage, just like other physical gifts from God, is not an absolute cure for lust, but it can be a great help in the battle.

Will marriage cure my lust? That’s today’s question from an unmarried listener named Mark. “Dear Pastor John, I’m a 22-year-old burdened with strong sexual desires. Sometimes I submit to the flesh and look at pornography. I hate this and am fighting against this sin with the help of friends.

“In the meantime, I have some friends who seek to care for my soul by quoting the apostle Paul — ‘For it is better to marry than to burn with passion’ (1 Corinthians 7:9) — and they say I should marry soon. But I also have married friends who assure me that marriage will not cure my lust and tell me it would be a battle I would carry into marriage! I’m confused. If marriage cures lust, I should marry soon. If it doesn’t cure lust, then I need to work on personal purity now, without urgency to marry. Which is it?”

Episode 1345: www.desiringgod.org/interviews/will-marriage-cure-my-lust

Related Resources:

“Two Strategies to Win the War on Lust” youtu.be/0yOHIGOSmMs

“Six Steps to Defeating Sexual Sin” www.youtube.com/watch?v=GQ-tC_SpM34&list=PLAcB0f-21Xj06Xs3tmMl0FuVQRp0gGu5A

“Can a Husband Lust After His Wife?” youtu.be/9yq4PPMzt-o

“Is Oral Sex Okay?” youtu.be/SzimKdJKi6Q

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